I would love to to make a community of support and understanding for disabled mothers. Whether you became disabled before or after having children, what those disabilities are, you have a safe space here. Through my story it has been hard to find people that can understand or give advice, and it can feel lonely.
I will start by giving a summary of my experience. I became disabled when about 7-8 months pregnant with my first (the end of 2009). I had symphasis pubis dysfunction. It is not common for it to happen prior to delivery. It is even less common for it not to heal postpartum.
I ended up having a major surgery when my son with 6 months old. 15 screws were inserted in my hips, two 10 inch screws through my SI joint. I wasn't able to use my legs at all for 6 months. Right when I was allowed to use my legs again and start physical therapy, my plate (the screws went through) shattered. I was immediately bedridden again until they could redo the surgery.
It ended up being almost 1 year to the day after my first, that they did a second surgery. This time more screws and they took a bone graft to fuse my symphasis. Again 6 months of not using the bottom half of my body. By that time I also had extensive nerve damage. Throughout all of this my amazing husband has carried me around, wiped my rear, and so many other thing I never even dreamed of being a situation in our mid 20s. It was stressful for both of us in different ways.
Finally in 2015, a doctor suggested a spinal stimulator. I got a test-run done and it helped, so they scheduled the surgery. It is now implanted on my spinal cord. It has helped with the pain and weird discomfort that nerve damage can cause. I have slowly gotten better to some extent, but I will never be able to do so many things I enjoyed previously. It has been a long road, and it still isn't over, and may never be. I hope to find other mothers out there that I can support and encourage, and hope other will do the same.
If you aren't comfortable sharing your story yet, that is okay. Please lurk, join, support, vent, whatever you are most comfortable with, or need at the moment. It is lovely to meet you, thank you for being here!

Can anyone help me out here? Feet measure 10.5 inches, I’m EU 42 in my dr martens and burks. Wear a 10.5 (EU 44.5) in Gel Nimbus 23’s for running. Just wondering how these run. Do i get a 9.5 or a 10?

I finally got all my parts for my new aquarium together! But… initially I was going for a ten gallon tank and decided to go with 20. I ordered a 20 pound bag of sand for the 10 gallons. I finally have all my parts and want to start right away tomorrow but am second guessing now on having 1 inch substrate. I am getting back into having an aquarium so I will not be having any live plants at the moment. After cycling I want 4-6 cories, snail, 2-3 killi or guppies. Should I order an additional 20 pound bag of the same sand and delay a few days? Also any tips on rinsing products before I assemble the tank would be appreciated (especially the sand). I heard 5 gallon buckets work good. If I ever decided to have live plants would I need a thicker substrate? How would I add more sand to an established tank? Thank you!

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Pardon the sensational title but I'd really like to encourage comments from anyone with a similar or complete opposite experience to me.
I setup a 16gallon rimless cube about a year ago, filled it halfway with water to have cherry shrimp in the water portion as well as the crabs on land. I purchased 2 females and one male [ Orange Eye Vampire Crab (Geosesarma sp.) ] from Aquatic Arts. Posted about it here : https://reddit.com/VampireCrabs/comments/pd2d70/enough_land/
Over the last year a lot went well with the tank, and a lot more went wrong. The sheet moss all burned out and died from too much light, mold grew everywhere (then I added springtails), the nifty aquatic path quickly became covered in the soil because I didn't have good enough separation, and actually all my sloped soil on the land gradually filled the water portion because I didn't properly block it off. Leaving my water portion filled with 3 inches of aqua soil and my already minimal land area eroded to even less.
While all my land plants and decor went to absolute crap... The animals all thrived. The aquatic mosses exploded giving ample hiding and breeding areas for the shrimp. A pest snail population I can't quite ID also unfortunately exploded (smaller than bladder snails, but similarly shaped). There were always loads of shrimp and I routinely saw new generations of crabs. The new generations even got to be less shy and at least one could be spotted most times I glanced in the tank. Several of the babies would use the minor moisture and algae growth to climb straight up and out of the small gaps on the rimless lid. So much for needing generous ramps for the small ones... Glued some plastic to the top and form a sealed lid... Which increased the humidity to a perpetual 99% and then I started noticing a cyanobacteria take over parts of land and water that made the whole thing smell like a swamp, and when the heater failed that was the last straw for this tank. I took my lessons from this build, my tax refund, and purchased a 48 gallon vertical terrarium for version 2.
My new build is essentially this for the background: https://youtu.be/QTH9m6MDIfc except I went with a fogger instead of a rain/myst system, and I got a ZooMed platform for the land area rather than molding/planting it in. https://zoomed.com/paludarium-platform/ all the little issues with the first build encouraged me to take it a little easier on myself for the maintenance. Glued down fake super moss, got a fake plant vine to hide cables, and with the removable platform I can just remove and replace heaters or filters when they crap out. Still going to try and add in live plants and moss to fill it all out, but the stuff I need to hide cables and seams is artificial so I don't need to worry about it dying off.
Anyhoo... Now it was time to move my handful of crabs from what had become about 10" of soil land and some cyanobacteria covered driftwood of from the old tank. It's been over a week and I'm still removing them... Several more per day as they come out of god knows where. Every piece of driftwood or decor gets put in a bucket for observation and invariably several crabs of various generations shake out of there. I've easily removed over 30 crabs from this tank and I'm sure there are at least half a dozen more.
So based on this last year here's some key take aways:
I don't think the new generations are less shy like so many people (myself included) say so often... I think there's so many crabs in there you can't help but see one. I don't think adult males are as aggressive as people say. I almost never saw fighting or missing legs/claws in the old tank. In the year or so of keeping these guys I think I saw 2 detached claws which IMO can be explained by a tough molt as easily as fighting. Meanwhile, I removed at least 10 fully grown males from this cramped AF failed tank. Maybe there's some extra peace due to being from a single lineage?
Baby crabs climb up straight glass. I'm sure ramps are important, but their necessity has to be overstated. My new tank has various channels built into the 3D background that I'm very confident will be sufficient for them to get in and out of the water.
Baby crabs will not drown in 12" of water. This population increased 10x in less than a year despite having that.
While I hesitate to list this, because these are absolutely primarily land dwelling in my experience... "Not enough land" is overstated. There were so many crabs living their best springtail and crab cuisine munching lives in this nano tank it's crazy.
A proper lid is critical. This I think is my least controversial finding, but it cannot be said enough. These guys will find ways out the smallest gap imaginable. Make holes only for your cables and plumbing, and think seriously about silicone for gap filling even those.
Proper humidity control is critical, but not for the crabs. The amount of mold, bacteria, and fungal growth in a too humid environment is insane. Consider this along with your lid selection. My version 2 has a fine mesh lid and an external humidifier with a hygrometer to keep everything dialed in without there being 24/7 steam on the glass of the tank. Wish me luck.